When a loved one passes away, it’s natural to hold onto items that remind us of them. While some keepsakes provide comfort, others can unintentionally prolong grief and negatively impact your emotional well-being. Experts in mental health and grief counseling suggest being mindful about what you keep. Surprisingly, some items are better let go of for your mental and emotional health. Here are four things you should avoid keeping after losing a loved one (excluding anything religious).
1. Unwashed Clothing: Many people hold on to unwashed clothes because they retain the person’s scent, but this can trap you in an emotional loop. Instead of helping you heal, smelling these items repeatedly can make it harder to accept reality and move forward. Washing or donating them when you’re ready can be a healthier step.
2. Expired Personal Care Items: Things like half-used perfumes, cosmetics, or toiletries don’t serve a practical purpose and can clutter your space. Keeping these often prolongs sadness because every glance at them triggers painful memories without any benefit.
3. Everyday Utility Items: Objects like old toothbrushes, razors, or worn-out shoes may seem small, but they keep your mind anchored in the past. These items do not hold sentimental value and can contribute to an unhealthy attachment.
4. Negative or Triggering Items: If certain objects remind you of the circumstances of their passing or a difficult period, it’s best to let them go. Keeping these items can increase feelings of anger, regret, or sadness, preventing emotional healing.
Instead of holding onto everything, select a few meaningful keepsakes—such as photographs, letters, or a favorite accessory—that bring comfort and positive memories. Creating a small memory box or album can help you honor your loved one without surrounding yourself with overwhelming reminders that hinder healing.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional grief counseling. If you’re struggling with loss, consider seeking support from a mental health professional or grief counselor.
